Talks we
do have them a lot, with the partners to be, or the ones we hope that
will be, or just the ones for a overnight adventure. If, and only if
we take them out for a meal and perhaps a movie, we are sitting down
enjoying a nice meal, the “I want to get to know you” bite. When
we however come to the end of one, we can go through how ever many
years with a goat cheese sandwich and a coffee. Did it al mean so
little? The things we need to sort out, before we sign what ever we
had or was left, away.
In the
little café just in around the corner we would have never given a
second glance is now suddenly good enough to go over the financial, a
date and a quick thanks and see you. Leaving you with what ever
feeling, but also slightly unsatisfied about the lunch you just had,
did it really had to end with crappy food to reflect the not so good
relationship. I think I opt for a nasty tasting healthy wheat grass
juice, at least it has some benefits. And still leaves the required
bitter taste.
In sharp
contrast to that I had lunch with some good friends and colleagues
today and as expected the meal fit the company. Not all f the guys
and dolls showed up, and were missed subsequently. We enjoyed each
others company and had a good laugh, chatted about a thousand things
ans enjoying the sunshine and a fresh breeze coming from sea. Even
though it is a short lunch break away from work, we truly enjoyed the
food and the view, to be able to finally sit outside creating a short
“holiday” moment.
Holiday,
for me still so far away but something to look forward to, its for
now just getting over all these happy faces who will leave in a few
weeks and are cleaning their caravans, or those special shorts for
far away places. Others are preparing to go to a far away place to
secure peace on a tour of duty.
So the
moments, just before summer hits and we all go in different
directions, where we can still have a simple lunch with friends is a
good moment to talk and look back, its almost something from the Xmas
period, where we look back and see what this year did or didn't
bring. The conversations are light and refreshing, we did laugh a
lot, I love these relax moments. If only I could share them with more
of them, the people around me are each of them “special”in their
own ways, but all of them help me to orchestrate my life. They all
add, little or a lot to how I think and who I am. When we talk about
the serious or the not so serious things in our life, these are
things that sometimes in a flash help you to understand matters of
life, you just could not figure out alone. Wisdom it shows doesn't
come with age, it seems to come with friends. As a person who likes
to talk, it is in this group I like to listen and observe, learn and
participate in the magic of friendship, laughs, joy and even pain.
Thanks
to modern technology friends who can not be there are never far away,
where ever they are in the world, I use to think; I would love to see
your face, talk or hug you, or maybe just want to shake your hand,
and feel you are still there. Where as sometimes it is impolite to
have your mobile at hand during a meal, here it is nice to share
something with them, to just feel they are part of it.
As I am
writing this a friend calls from the Caribbean on Skype to show me
the lunch buffet at the four seasons...... so I just did make my
point. Not a big user of Skype or face time but I think that will
change slowly.
For me
it is OK, being able to say good morning to some of them and leave
them a little post during the day, if we do not see each other due to
work or distances be it great or small its something to let you know,
hey I am there and you were just on my mind.
Sharing
funny or sad moments is so much easier, I do use face book but I am
not putting to much social life, be it disaster or joy out there, I
merely inform my family and some friends about some average things in
my life, as, even living in Holland now, I do not see them as often
as I might like. My good friends, who are adding so much to my life,
even them I do not see them as much as I want too. It happens that we
are getting close in distance but are separated by appointments, to
make up for it we have a somewhat longer online chat.
I am
looking forward to the moments we can share a meal, a laugh and see
each other face to face, it is so much more worth it in our busy
life’s, I love to handle each one of these moments as a date where
I hope to find the next love, where I already know I found a lifetime
of friendship, so that would be the time I skip the goat cheese
sandwich, and also have a dessert!
They
might say life's a ball, for me its a great menu!
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