building a man from the friendslist

Many of us look back on our dating past and wonder how on earth we could ever have considered romancing men so incompatible. But new research has found that this is perfectly normal, revealing that man’s tastes change as they get older and proving that there is indeed a ‘perfect gay man’ for every stage in a man’s life.

From bright young things on the hunt for a hunk to ‘later daters’ looking for a cerebral soulmate, the research shows that a man’s age will often dictate the different characteristics they look for in a partner. When we first start dating we carry over the desire to fit in and belong from our adolescence, and seek approval from our friends to validate our choices.  We are building confidence at this age, and it’s important to us to know that we are choosing well. As we grow in confidence and invest in our own careers, partners who are doing the same become very attractive to us. And while we’re young and sexy it is natural that we want our dates to reflect this aspect of ourselves as well. (Yes there are the exceptions e.g. daddy’s and twinks to name a few) This mirroring of ambition and looks reflects these years when we are consolidating our persona; working out who we are and what we want. Priorities shift as we begin to think of commitment and “family life”.

Men who are established, stable, and successful and have life experience become very attractive to men at a different age, offering the depth of resources (both material and emotional) required for successful partnership. (We are no longer in our twenties)

As we grow older and with hormone levels changing (Even when we don’t want to admit they change) they become more assertive, experimenting more and celebrating our wisdom. Man become prepared to take risks and perhaps seek out new adventures; they are not afraid to search for passion, but still understand that feeling secure is a vital ingredient for happiness. Suddenly subtle shifts in development create a well-rounded perspective on relationships, stressing the importance of friendship as well as sexual resonance. These men take the long-term view that commitment requires humor, intelligence and shared values to stand the test of time, meaning they are not prepared to settle for anything else. Having experienced different relationships, they know exactly what they want and, importantly, what they don’t.

As I (think) am somewhere in the middle of this all I was wondering after the recent days if I can build my Mr. Perfect from the man in my friend list, be it straight, bi or gay. Just to have a good selection I took my address book and my Facebook friend list.

Before I started I had to divide this task in two parts one for the looks and the second one for the personality. Let me tell you one thing I am glad that I don’t drink in the afternoon. This was far from easy.

Looking for a tall man, dark eyes, chest hair and strong legs not over muscular. And after 30 minutes I thought I did it, only to find out that something was missing. Not to mention that the person was tall in legs with a short torso and too much out of balance, it would be easier to be able to Photoshop…. So another try. Two cups of tea and some fooling around with pictures mostly from Facebook, I think I came very close. Seems I still like the Middle Eastern look. Well tall dark and handsome with a whiff of mystery.

Now the character. New dimension, I know all of my friends on Facebook and my address list so that makes it easier.  From a not too long list I ended up with 5 guys, who combined made Mr. Perfect, I just had to give each one of them a percentage to add up to a 100% satisfaction for me. The good thing next to the fun I had was to have a good look at the men on the sideline of what is my life and find out that they all mean something special to me, each in their own way, entertaining and educational each in their own individual way. They make for a lot of happiness and fulfillment in my life. I am a happy man, to have in a way already found my Mr. Perfect.