summer has returned, and after a day with clouds and rain we are welcoming it back with open arms. it is still my holiday, so sun go ahead.
this little seaside town is getting ready for one of the bigger festivals in the area, so for the coming 3 days it will be very quiet in the village and all the action will be in the mountains overlooking the town.
its also one of the reasons for me being here, this is the time when family gets together with friends and just eat all day on a pick-nick blanket in front of the church once the procession has returned the holy virgin back to the church. after that some people from the crowd will start making music and there will be dancing and did i mention it there will be food.
but more of that on sunday, if by the time i get home i can still write after enjoying mountains of food.
back to today, it was a sunny friday and i went over to Vigo to meet a friend and go to the beach, to enjoy the weather and chat. i took the early ferry to get to Vigo and what a start of a day it was, sunny and almost no wind. this promised to be at least a sunny beach day. i arrived safely (as always) on the other side of the bay, to be greeted by my friend who was already waiting to takes us to the beach for a few hours. so off we went, on the way to our destination we chatted about all kinds and it was a nice ride. he decided a long the way to stop a few times to show me some other beaches around Vigo, and i must say they looked great. normally i only see a little from the other side of the bay or while crossing it. after about half an hour, a lot of chatting we arrived at this little stretch of beach, almost at the entry of bay, where the Atlantic just rolled in. The thunder of the waves breaking on the shoreline was telling me that there were forces at work here. we got into our shorts ready for a (careful) dive in the ocean. you could actually smell the ocean in the spray that filled the air after the waves rocked the shore. one moment the water is ankle deep to be up to your man parts the next one, so no time to adjust...... its all or nothing. great!!! just something to my liking, as i am a man of the sea. this was so like the north shore on Hawaii, great, you could feel the force of the water pushing and pulling you. here it is somewhat of an advantage to not be fashionable skinny, i could stand my ground. you have to love this. it surely cooled us, and after a few minutes trying to break some waves, and failing,we went back to our towels.
time to chat and to get to know each other better, for we only had a quick start. i noticed that there was hardly anyone on the beach with us, and funny enough we were on a small stretch which also was partly a nude beach. you have to love this country. the conversation started and within moments there it was, this feeling that we have known each other for years. with that and not feeling a stranger in each others company, we chatted about us, relationships, love, commitment and what ever fits the bill in the great book of life. we are almost the same age and share a few interest in common, and there was no need for keeping things out of the conversation. we were close to each other and while enjoying some sunshine, we were as close as lovers one can almost say. i felt no need to move over or create a distance, here things were in balance. to make things even more perfect we both seem to feel it, life is a miracle when you meet someone and hit it off immediately, this was sure one of these moments. we both had our stories and even not knowing him that long, i was able to read him as a book, which made talking about certain subjects so easy. we talked about relationships, his being in a kind of a pickle and my that day officially finished, the divorce came through that morning, finally officially. he talked about the time they met and where they were now. the story sounded so familiar, and i asked him a few questions. pointing these straight at him, about his thoughts and feelings, and he answered without any reservation, this is how friends talk to each other. we were no longer just close on a towel but also in thoughts. he seemed to be having much on his mind and i was glad to be there and listen. borders disappear when you find someone on some level being a soulmate. it might not be helping him al the way but i think that it may have made him think clearer and there is someone out there listening. the short period we had together on the beach was amazing and i was able to also rest my head at someone, to be able to sigh and take in this moment, i love being able to be close to some people and no matter what other people would say just be close.
we took a few more dives and than it was time to say goodbye, we already knew that we would not be seeing each other again this holiday but we stay in touch and back in december we will spend more time than these 3 amazing hours. so much is said and so much unsaid. as we said goodbye i was about to give him a kiss like i do with my friends at home, but not really sure enough i just kept it to a goodbye. even when the feeling of being close is amazing i do hesitate when parting from a friend in a different country. too late he told me that would have been no problem at all.
i arrived back home, to crash after my shower, as my insomnia has been giving me a few shorts night. so my first night at the Darbo festival was a miss. i am sure sunday will make up for that. tomorrow a day at home and the beach and taking things easy. this afternoon across the bay will surely be on my mind, and not only for that day.
when it comes to relationships and one just rolls into it, is it so hard to admit the time has come to see if things not are going to change, it is simply over? yes, i to had my time to get over it. but if important things fall short over a longer period, do you have to think how the other will manage? for sure you have the right to ask yourself where you are standing in all of this. routine will be in any relationship, but communication should always be a part of it, next to intimacy, if they fade into the background, disaster will happen. we all have needs in so many ways, part of the relationship is to pay attention, show love, interest and passion. the older we get does not mean we can do with less of that. we always question ourselves when things are no longer happening, lets face it, its easier as asking a non-communicative partner what is wrong. that would be like squeezing a lemon through a straw. and, let this not be a surprise we all do it sometimes, for if we wouldn't we would be afraid to be called egoist, or even worse things. a silence is only broken when someone talks. you can not stand there and only want your picture to be taken, and be to proud to follow a river,because if you never try you will never find the sea. it still looks good after years, but so does Ming-China, and trust me that can become much older than you and me!. so confide and trust helping hand from time to time. for my friend out there, i might not be able to move mountains, but i can guide you through the other end, just be next there, through the good and the bad, easy to find. thanks to social media even faster and more often than you think.
together with others and my crazy ways in this world we feed my blog and my brain, but sometimes a little wisdom is just around the corner.
with you,all of you i will be ok, this is us, in a world that is changing, this is love this is where i live, this is where i want to be. no more plans B, this place feels like me!!!
thanks!
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