it's true, love is everywhere

On a day where thoughts are just everywhere, i found this one and i must admit it's a great way to see what love can be....

When you asked to talk and all you hear is silence.

How do you know if the guy you’re dating is the right one for you? How can you tell if you’re REALLY with Mr. Right? We live in a society where we are raised believing we deserve and should have the best of everything. In the relationship world of plentiful, I’ve often heard men say they are on a quest for the best-looking guy, the biggest penis, the wealthiest man, etc. So when you eventually meet someone you feel compatible with, it’s not all that uncommon to ask yourself, “But is this ‘The One?’

So what happens if the love story ends, you both move on but decided that the friendship is there to remain for the future. Lets face it you had an amazing time but for some reason it wasn't suppose to be. These things can and will happen, for whatever earthly reason. You might have simple be to young to go THAT serious, maybe one of you did not explore the world, or love enough to settle. Next to wishing for Mr. Right there is also “freedom”, we so much appreciate. Lets face it guys its not always sunny in la-la-land.

Once on our way out in the world it might just happen that we turn around look over our shoulder and notice that Mr. Previous wasn't all that bad, and the friendship promised or planned isn't turning out all it supposed to be.

One of the big “question mark” situations that is quite common among singles is when their ex-boyfriend comes back into the picture. Sparks start flying again and you both begin to ponder the possibility of reconciling and starting a new relationship with each other. You feel torn because you’re feeling a renewed attraction with someone familiar and have a resurgence of fantasies of what could be, while at the same time you recognize that you broke up with him once before for a particular reason. And what if just one of you is feeling this?

My god Tarzan we are back in the jungle, and trust me you are not the only one. Life seems to throw new challenges at us everyday and it looks, from my side of the window, that there isn't a app yet to solve everything in a gays life.

Yes, once we leave romance and picking up on subtle gestures out of the picture we get somewhere with the average (fast) dating app. Other more 'old-fashioned” things require a little more non-digital life experience. Hollywood and books should give us a hint, but we are watching so much in such a speed what do we remember or what does our brain actually notice as being remembered? In the modern race of becoming a adult we seem to forget a few steps..... and lets be honest in our scene today.....

One of the most common gripes I hear from gay men is the complete lack of social etiquette or regard they feel they receive from dating prospects on the singles circuit. This is disheartening. As an already disenfranchised and stigmatized community, why can’t we treat each other with more compassion and kindness? We are, after all, in this together. Whether it be fear of rejection, hurting someone’s feelings, ignorance or blatant bad manners, we all have a responsibility to treat our fellow gay compatriots with common courtesy. So why cant we?

We are more concerned watching the others plate for carbohydrates and the secret fat makers as to look him in the eye and have a meaningful conversation. Sure we talk everybody that we communicate, but is talking about empty calories, just not simply empty?

When we stop talking about things that are important to how we feel about us, ourselves, or matters important between two beings together, are we not on track for something bad?

Sure there are things you discuss easier with friends as your partner, simply because he can see it as some form of criticism, which in a bad relationship moment would not add to solving the matter. But in all honesty, could this have been avoided by talking about it in a earlier stage?

Looking around me, seeing my friends having their “things”, I wonder and I learn, giving the advice to talk is indeed much easier as doing it. Admitting that I also lost many a good thing because I simple shut up, even when not asked to do so. None of us are magical beings (although some of them need more convincing) so by just looking me in the eye, you will probably never get the answer, you might so desperately need.

In a scene with no “nice” guidelines the world becomes an even harder place, so to have someone to talk to and maybe even hold you, to shelter you when you feel vulnerable is no sign of weakness to me, it shows me you are strong enough to truly feel!